Zero Fucks to Give

I was listening to a girl cry to her mom and ask her when she started not caring about what other people think. I smiled at the question as I heard the mom let out an audible sigh before answering. Her answer was, "It's not that you ever stop caring, you just, at some point, learn that you can only hold so much and other people's opinions are just not worth carrying anymore." Man, did I feel that answer. Personally, I have felt the shift in the last couple of years as I have grown with 40 approaching. It is a shift of realizing what's important to me and that time is finite. If I can't control it, it's not worth my time, energy, or attention. And there's a lot that I can't control; people's opinions are just one of those things. I will still listen to their thoughts, but if it doesn't align with my values and the person that I want to be... out the window it goes. I hold on to the things that I want to be remembered by: that I am a truth-teller (even if you don't want to hear it), that I give kind words to build another person up, that I listen in a time of need, that moments are precious and I choose to be present in them in a world that is constantly distracting us from what matters. It's not that as you age you have zero fucks to give... It's that as you age, you are just more selective of your fucks. I applaud that mom's answer and I wish there was a magical wand to slow down time but achieve the maturity of time to allow that young girl the peace of ZERO FUCKS TO GIVE. Something tells me that she will be just fine with a mom like that guiding her.

Also, click on this link and watch the video on the Change Purse of Fucks. This Lady explains it even better than I can:

https://www.tiktok.com/@gvizzle_74/video/7003383424031411461